Caring for siblings
Wherever possible, siblings are placed together. If they have been separated they will be reunited into one placement as soon as possible, provided this is in the best interests of all the children. Whether separated or in a placement together, siblings have some special needs. Talk to your caseworker if you need help understanding a situation or resolving a problem.
Siblings in care together
Keeping siblings together in a single placement has great benefits. It can support a strong sense of identity and help kids better understand and cope with the changes in their lives. Depending on the number of children you’ve been approved to care for, you may be asked to care for a sibling group.
What is a sibling?
DCJ has a broad definition of what it means to be a ‘sibling’. Siblings could be children with both parents in common, or just one parent in common, or children who have been raised together as part of one family. Wherever possible, siblings are placed together.
Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander siblings
The connections that Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander children have to their family and community are essential to their sense of identity. It is fundamental to the wellbeing of the children and their families that these connections are maintained and strengthened.
Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander children are placed in sibling groups wherever possible. If that is not possible, carers and caseworkers should work on keeping up contact with siblings, as long as that contact is in the best interests of all the children involved.
Understanding sibling relationships
You may notice that the siblings in your care have strong group loyalty and an intense emotional bond. Try to respond to each child’s individual needs while allowing them to retain those family loyalties.
You may also find that one child acts as a leader or parent to the sibling group. This may not always be the eldest child. Be patient and don’t expect that child to dismiss this role immediately. Appreciate their sense of maturity and responsibility, and give them time to adjust.
Conflict between siblings
Sibling conflict can be an issue. It could be because the kids have come from a home environment where aggression was common and there were few limits on behaviour – or because they’ve watched a lot of violent games or movies.
Over time, they will learn that things are different in your home and will start to copy your behaviour. If kids’ squabbles are very frequent or violent, talk to your caseworker. It might be useful to get a referral to a psychologist, therapist or other professional.